I want you to celebrate your season as a Single. Being a single is not a disadvantage and it is not a sin. You are not under a curse that you are single. Life is in phases and men are in sizes. Every phase in life prepares you for the next one. Singleness is a necessary phase you pass through in the experience of life. I have good news for you, it is better to be a single believing God to be married than to be married and praying to God to become Single. So take time to enjoy yourself as a Single and celebrate being a single. Your time as a single is very unique season of your life that God has given to you, and it is primarily for the purpose of preparation. You don't prepare in marriage, you prepare for marriage. Many thought marriage is just all about finding a partner. Tall, huge and handsome; Holy Ghost filled and money loaded. There is much more to marriage than this. Every successful marriage is a product of adequate preparation, and the best time to prepare is now. If you wait to get married before you start preparing it would be too late. Some thought getting married is to find a partner and go to the Altar and be joined together. Many marriages failed because of inadequate preparations. What some people do most is that they don't know that they are preparing for wedding and not for marriage. There is a difference between wedding and marriage.
There is a day after wedding, it is called marriage. The real business of marriage begins after the day of your wedding. Whatever the preparation is, it would begin to speak. When some people come for counselling and they are asked how prepared are you, they said we have bought the suit and the gown. They are preparing for wedding and not marriage. The elaborateness of your wedding has nothing whatsoever to do with the result of your marriage. The success of your marriage drives on how prepared you are before marriage. You don't learn how to shoot gun in the battle front you learn how to shoot it before the battles begins; otherwise you becomes a victim. God has privileged you to be a single so you can have adequate time to prepare yourself. As a matter of fact, the reason why it looks like there is delay in some people getting married is because God has weigh them in the balance and discovered they are not prepared. And so He is giving them a long time to prepare and they are crying and crying when God would answer me with my own partner’s prayer. The white man said, when preparation meets with opportunity the result becomes SUCCESS. There is no accidental success in marriage; every marriage successful today is as a result of adequate preparation. Jesus Christ replying the Pharisees in Matthew 19:3-4 when they came tempting him about husband and wife. Jesus replied them saying “have ye not read”. He expected them to have read. He listened to their questions and Jesus Christ concluded that this people have not read, that if they have read they wouldn't come asking this stupid questions. Jesus first description for marriage is reading. Before your wedding day, you are expected to have read at least 5-10 books on marriage. If you know how much you need to prepare, then you will know that 10 books are not too much for marriage. Jesus said have you not read, have you not read. When you study materials on marriage you would find out what you are getting into.
